Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have an opinion about, but the hardest thing in the world to do. ~Matt Walsh
Everyone has an opinion and some people just have an opinion about everything if you know what I mean LOL, but they are entitled to those opinions. There are some people who can take people’s opinions with a grain of salt (and toss it over they’re shoulder like its nothing) and others who take it to way to personal and take it to heart and then they get defensive. Nowadays everyone is overly sensitive about everything (that’s my personal opinion.) There’s no doubt in my mind that parenting is the hardest job out there. As mothers not only do we risk our bodies to create a human being and go through the most excruciating pain anyone could ever imagine but then we have to raise them to become a decent human being in this world! I mean talk about pressure!
We do what we think is best for our kids. I mean a lot of first time moms out there get that weird itch, if you’ve ever seen the Luvs diaper commercial with the mom and the mechanic you know what I’m talking about. Not to say that I too didn’t have that itch, where we had to sanitize everything, baby proof the toilet seat, being over protective of everything. I like to call it New Mommy Itch, you can’t help it. I remember with my first-born I wanted to be the perfect mom. I made sure she watched baby Einstein videos 30 minutes a day so her brain was getting stimulated enough, I breastfed her, I was making her baby food myself, I was teaching her sign language and Spanish and I made sure she had toys that were educational for her too. Doesn’t that sound exhausting? Let me tell you I sure was exhausted at the end of every night and no wonder I suffered through post pardon depression, but that’s a whole other story for a different blog. I wanted to share this with you because I felt this sort of pressure from society. I felt pressured to raise my daughter the way I thought society wanted me to raise her and not the way I felt was best to raise her. I felt like if I didn’t do those things for my child that people were going to view me as this unfit parent who didn’t care about her child’s well-being. I followed those opinions instead of my mommy instinct.
Anyone and everyone is going to have an opinion about anything you do. They will have an opinion on how you discipline your child, what you feed them, how they are dressed, the fact that you let them color their hair at such a young age. Shoot they may even have something to say not only about how you parent but about yourself too! I personally struggled through a lot of this with my anxiety and post pardon depression, overly thinking about how to handle my children in front of strangers and family members trying to do everything by the book. And it caused me to struggle with life in general. It put a wedge between my husband and I, it caused me to get frustrated with my children all the time, I lost myself, I lost friends because I let their opinions get inside my head. Which by the way, those kind of people who do not support you for who you are and how you do things in your life are not your real friends. You do not have to go through this like I did. It took me a long time to realize that I am a great mom, and I do a fantastic job at raising my girls. Surround yourself with people who love you, and respect you even if they handle stuff differently than you do and don’t agree with everything you do but still respect you and your decisions. Because we all do things that work for us and we should respect everyone on how they live their lives, On how mothers take care of their children because in the end..they are her children and she knows whats best for HER kids.
Mommies you are a lot stronger than you think you are. You can handle more than you think you are capable of handling. Lets all work on supporting each other more and not giving each other dirty looks when we see someone else doing things differently. Or shut a mommy out because you simply don’t agree with the way she does things. Everyone has an opinion, and they have a right to their opinion but it’s also you right to just look at them and say thanks and go about your day. In the end, you know you’re awesome and you got this!